Why is it that things are never the way we want them, the way we expect them or just the way they should be? Is it our perception of common sense that frustrates us, or are the sales techniques of this new age of enlightenment bordering on deceit? What can we do to mitigate our exposure to the crazy world of the bizarre? Or is it we that should change our thinking to be in line with what going on around us? Go into a big supermarket chain for their meal deals and the parts that make up the deal won’t be together for ease of the customer but spread all over, presumably to make you search and potentially buy more. Get a petrol discount voucher from the same well-known brand and you won’t be able to use it unless you go out of your way, which defeats the object of getting the discount.Try to find a cheaper alternative for your utility provider and you’ll likely end up paying more for a worse service. Make a choice to get your car serviced at virtually any garage and you’ll either get poor service, extortionate prices or possibly both. So are we just expecting too much or not grateful for what we get, or perhaps we truly are being misconceived?
Frustration over trivia can be a recipe for ill health so we need to take everything with a pinch of salt and just realise how lucky we are and appreciate everything either for what it is or as a learning experience. I had a learning experience last weekend when I attended an Orgasmic Meditation class in London. Cost of course for a couple, extra course requisite purchases, travel, hotel etc. it all adds up. One day of supposed learning and there’s no change out of seven hundred and fifty quid, plus a whole day and night of your time is used up. Now had the event lived up to our expectations I wouldn’t begrudge anything but when you believe you are going to get one thing and end up getting a poor alternative we naturally feel slightly aggrieved. Of course we’re British so we don’t say anything but when we come to analyse it later its less than ideal. So how do we avoid similar misconceptions in the future? Well taking a recommendation from someone who has already been there and done it so as to speak, is one possibility. Perhaps not being quite so gullible in believing everything we’re told is another. Staring me in the face every day I have the words of Buddha ‘Believe nothing no matter where you read it or who said it….unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense. I even quote this to clients and yet still fall foul of the marketing mastery of businesses everywhere.What we believe is rarely the same as what is. Several people I’ve worked with recently have fallen prey to similar sorts of misleading information, costing them far more than my one day of wasted misfortune. We are however,each responsible for our own finances and have to accept the blame for whatever we do. Last week’s property evening event I attended, had around thirty hopeful people,many potentially signing up to a very expensive course which they could learn from books for around a hundredth of the cost, the chances of more than two of the people actually making anything in property is very unlikely. An American report a couple of years ago on internetmarketing, showed that less than one half of one per cent of people actually made enough money to pay back the cost of the course so perhaps anyone looking at getting rich from their learning may be well advised to go back to college. All of life is a learning curve though, and when we have established the only way is to paint our own canvas, thought by thought and choice by choice until we have created our own masterpiece, we discover our purpose, passion and pride is what will ultimately bring about our prosperity.
There comes a time to stop thinking and just go where your heart takes you, you will instinctively know it is right.When we begin to realise that there is a massive difference between truth and facts we can see how facts can obscure the truth. The important thing is being present and understanding appreciation and being gratful for everything. When we have the intuition with the right intention we find we have the desire to overcome any problem, then once we find the belief and commitment to allow everything to be as it is, we are not affected by it. Life gives us only what we have the courage to ask for, so we should be bold in our sentiment, and not guided by those who don’t put as much emphasis on what you do that you lose sight of who you really are. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams becoming a reality. The whole point of being alive until now has to been to evolve into the person you now are. We can all make mistakes but when we understand why we made them and learn from them, we can be sure not to let anyone else make decisions for us. Any certainty in life is generally an illusion; we have to accept that every day has the potential to change our thinking and our lives. We just never know until we try do we?
Endeavour to learn the lessons from every frustrating experience.
Lionel Palatine – He is a regular networker and a speaker at events as well as being a property author and adviser. He joint ventures deals and shows people how to buy property for low cost which are inclusive of all fees and deposits. Visit his property website HERE